We, as parents need to instill hope in our children. I think of HOPE in the following way -- H Help O Open P Peoples’ E Eyes We also need to teach positive traits such as honesty, integrity and morals to our children at a young age. Remember -- Children learn by example. We give our children two things— Roots and Wings. (I believe it was Hilary Clinton that said this statement). I feel we give them roots by teaching and giving them positive Affirmation Tools to use throughout their lifetimes. When the become of age we give them wings by allowing them to make their own pathway in life and try very hard not to interfere and to place upon them our desires of what WE think is right for our providing a solid foundation based on truth and honesty. We also teach by children. Who they should marry; How they should live their lives; What occupation path to follow; What type of friend to have, and on and on it goes. About Bullying We are all part of the whole picture and society and as such it is the responsibility of each one of us to help others eliminate bullying and violence in our homes, schools and communities. Think of ways you that and your children can help eliminate bullying and put-downs in school, home and communities. List them, talk about them and come up with positive, strong, solid ways you and your child agree. When children learn to love, respect and approve of themselves in a healthy manner, the need to make others feel inferior, put them down or bully disappears. Teaching Children the Power of Affirmations It is so important to teach our children values, morals, Affirmations, etc. instilling in them positive beliefs and happy, uplifting thoughts and ideas. When your child learns to do positive Affirmations properly at a young age they are receiving one of the best gifts you can ever bestow on them. Remember when you started your life and how you viewed things with simple, childlike faith and then you became programmed by those negative limited, unhappy ways of thinking? Now you have the chance to encourage your child to clear his or her mind of unhappy and limiting thoughts and to replace them with positive happy thoughts. When children are happy and well-adjusted the need to bully or control others disappears. Spend quality time at home teaching, modeling and living the attributes you desire to see manifest in your children. Become involved in your child’s life in all aspects. The Importance of Self-Esteem What is self-esteem? It is our inner image and who we believe we are. Where does it come from? It comes from our belief system and subconscious image of self. It also comes from the way we have been spoken to and how we talk to ourselves. We need to praise and encourage our children while visualizing them accomplishing their goals. 80% of children entering school have positive self-esteem. By 6th grade it has dropped to 20%. Only 5% of high school seniors feel positive about themselves. We, as parents need to have healthy self-esteem ourselves before we can teach it to our children. You have to have it first as you cannot give from an empty cup. Remember your child learns by example. Are you carrying some negative thoughts, ideas, beliefs or concepts from your past that need to be released and forgiven? Are you holding a grudge against a member of your family, a situation, or person? Did you know that some people say that forgiveness is selfish because it benefits mostly the person doing the forgiving? If you are, now is the time to give yourself a forgiveness healing. Forgiving someone is taking positive action, which reconnects you to your power. Communication – How Important is it? I feel it is one of the most important parts of child raising. Really listening to your child shows love, consideration and interest. It does take time and effort to listen to our children. Parents who listen to their children receive many benefits. Some are the joys of really getting to know the child and his or her improved behavior. When you really listen to your child, he or she does not have to use inappropriate behavior to get your attention. If you don’t know the answer to a question, just say so with honesty. If appropriate tell your child that you will try out find the answer. If you did not hear him or her, ask them to repeat. Remember that children have a limited vocabulary. The following tips help parents communicate that they child has something important to say: · Pay attention · Maintain eye contact · Allow him or her to speak without interrupting · Listen and concentrate on hearing and understanding what your child is saying · Give yourself space - if needed, back up, sit down and take a breath · Be calm and maintain eye contact · Do not show your impatience by watching television, reading or fidgeting · Refrain from formulating your answer while your child is speaking · Give feedback · Encourage your child to keep talking · Provide answers and advice only if asked · Watch the body language · Be courteous · Do not correct during the session. Make it clear that you have heard and understand the message. If you do not understand, ask questions, summarize the message and repeat it back to your child. Silence is golden- remember the less you talk the more you listen, the more the child will open up and share with you. CHOICES Choices come in different shapes and sizes and so does decisions. The very act of making a decision is powerful. Giving children choices is a meaningful tool. When children have choices at a young age, they are empowered to feel self- confident and also to feel that their opinions matter and that they are being validated. The type of choices you give at a young age is important. When Choices are Okay. When children make small decisions, they create the decision-making framework and have it in place when it comes time to make larger decisions or choices. The type of choices they are given at a young age is important. Some choices could be what we wear, what book to have read to them, what type of vegetable to have for dinner, what hairstyle (within reason) or what to name a pet. When Choices are Not OKAY! Some examples of things not to give choices are decisions around safety, what time to go to bed, doing their homework, what television shows or movies to watch, any type of bullying other children or attending school. Sample Master Affirmation for Children “I, (name of child) now make good, healthy decisions and choices that are made to everyone’s good, which includes me. I am happy, healthy and strong to the good of all. Thank you, thank you thank you. I accept Signed __________________________ Dated___________ Be certain to step ahead 3-4 weeks or months and visualize in vivid color your affirmation manifesting right before your eyes! It is so important to use visualization together with your Affirmations to be successful! Whatever you picture within reason can come true in your life if you have sufficient faith in the power within. There is a mighty force in the world that scientists call electro-magnetism. The Wonderful Universe Everything in the Universe is electro-Magnetic in nature and the Laws of Attraction and Repulsion operate electro- magnetically. When you assume a positive or negative state of mind, you get a negative or positive result. The Laws of the Universe and the Law of Cause and Effect has been written about thousands of times down through the centuries and practiced by outstanding characters of history like Moses, Alexander the Great, Napoleon, Benjamin Franklin, Edison and others. The wisest men of all ages, medicine men, religious leaders, great teachers, Mayan priests, Yogis, healers and miracles men they all knew this secret. They pictured in their minds and hearts what they wanted to take place and what they pictured eventually came true. The light you are using while reading this (unless you are reading it in the daytime) was pictured by Edison. He dared to think Big. If we took everything that has ever been created by thought alone out of the world, we would have nothing left but a primitive jungle. See how powerful creative visualization is. Picture, Picture, Picture That chair you are sitting on was first a thought in someone’s mind, now you are using it. The coffee pot you use every morning was at one time a mere thought in the mind of a person (in the invisible world) and now it is visible in our world. Give your mind a strong clear picture of you learning and teaching the process and magic of Affirmations to achieve your dreams. Change your thinking and you instantly commence to change conditions around you. Change the direction of a magnet and it changes the field around it immediately and automatically. Affirmations When Properly Done Always Work! The Importance of Appreciating & Validating your Child Tell your child— · You are special. · You are important. · You are loved. · You have the responsibility to take care of your body. · Trust your feelings and share with the family how your feel · Tell us when you are scared, sad, happy or worried. Children are never too young to learn good manners. It is very important for them to learn to say, “Please, thank you, excuse me” and other positive phrases. Teaching guidelines and expectations for good manners at home benefits them during their lifetime. Table manners may be more difficult to practice in a relaxed home setting, but it will benefit the child in social situations later on. Affirmation for Praise of Children “I, (your name) now refrain from criticizing or using negative put-downs with my children. I use praise, as I know when you take off the ‘p’ off praise, it becomes raise. It helps raise my child’s self-esteem. I enjoy encouraging my children to the good of all. Thank you, thank you, thank you." I accept Signed __________________ Dated. _________________ For Younger Children Help your child cut out a picture of a huge star. On the back of it have your child write out a personal affirmation such as, I have many friends, I learn easily, I am a good speller, etc. then on the front of it have him or her print the following poem: Star Poem Plan for more than you can do Then do it! Bite off more than you can chew Then chew it! Attach your Affirmation to a Star Hold on Tight And There you Are! |
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KIDS AFFIRMATION CLUB Teaching Kids How to Treat Themselves and Others with Respect Creating a place where kids can really feel that they BELONG,This program will cut down on violence, bullying at school, home and everywhere. An ideal workbook for any Youth Program! |
| Listen to James' positive musical message with a kaleidoscope of pictures for Kids read his story |
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